Tuesday, December 12, 2006

My Stupid Suicide Plan... By CHETAN BHAGAT

My Stupid Suicide Plan... By CHETAN BHAGAT

Last week, an IITian committed suicide. People who commit suicide do it

when they feel there's no future. But wait, isn't IIT the one place where a

bright and shining future is a foregone conclusion? It just doesn't add up,

does it? Why would a young, hardworking, bright student who has the world

ahead of him do something like this? But the answer is this-in our constant

reverence for the great institution (and I do believe IITs are great), we

forget the dark side. And the dark side is that the IITs are afflicted by

the quintessential Indian phenomenon of academic pressure, probably the

highest in the world.


I can rant about the educational system and how it requires serious

fixing, or I can address the immediate-try my best to prevent such

suicides. For this column I have chosen the latter, and I do so with a

personal story.


News of a suicide always brings back one particular childhood memory. I

was 14 years old when I first seriously contemplated suicide. I had done

badly in chemistry in the Class X half yearly exam. I was an IIT aspirant,

and 68% was nowhere near what an IIT candidate should be getting. I don't

know what had made me screw up the exam, but I did know this, I was going

to kill myself. The only debate was about method.

Ironically, chemistry offered a way. I had read about copper sulphate,

and that it was both cheap and poisonous. Copper sulphate was available at

the kirana store. I had it all worked out.

My rationale for killing myself was simple-nobody loved me, my chemistry

score was awful, I had no future and what difference would it make to the

world if I was not there.

I bought the copper sulphate for two rupees-probably the cheapest exit

strategy in the world.

I didn't do it for two reasons. One, I had a casual chat with the aunty

next door about copper sulphate, and my knowledgeable aunty knew about a

woman who had died that way. She said it was the most painful death

possible, all your veins burst and you suffer for hours. This tale made my

insides shudder. Second, on the day I was to do it, I noticed a street dog

outside my house being teased by the neighbourhood kids as he hunted for

scraps of food. Nobody loved him. It would make no difference to the world

if the dog wasn't there. And I was pretty sure that its chemistry score

would be awful. Yet, the dog wasn't trotting off to the kirana store. He

was only interested in figuring out a strategy for his next meal. And when

he was full, he merely curled up in a corner with one eye open, clearly

content and not giving a damn about the world. If he wasn't planning to die

anytime soon what the hell was I ranting about? I threw the copper sulphate

in the bin. It was the best two bucks I ever wasted.

So why did I tell you this story? Because sometimes the pressure gets

too much. Like it did for the IITian who couldn't take it no more. On the

day he took that dreadful decision, his family and friends were shattered,

and India lost a wonderful, bright child. And as the silly but true copper

sulphate story tells you-it could happen to any of us or those around us.

So please be on the lookout, if you see a distressed young soul, lend a

supportive, non-judgemental ear. When I look back, I thank that aunt and

that dog for unwittingly saving my life. If God wanted us to take our own

life, he would have provided a power off button. He didn't, so have faith

and let his plan for you unfold. Because no matter how tough life gets and

how much it hurts, if street dogs don't give up, there is no reason why we,

the smart species, should. Makes sense right?

Engineers are the BEST boy friends or girlfriends..

TO ALL NON ENGINEERS....sorry..pls dont take this as an offensive mail undermining you..okay.


Specially dedicated to all engineers out there...

Message: Today's lesson - 'Engineers are the Best Boyfriends'

Let me tell you why girls should eventually marry an engineer over a
Law
, Management, Arts or Medical School Graduate. He has three distinct
advantages over the rest of the graduates.

Advantage 1: Secure lifestyle
============================================================
An engineer boyfriend can provide you with a secure lifestyle. At 27
years old, an engineer probably has a respectable, stable job that gives
him a high income to own a car, invest, have a comfortable life, and get
married and buy a house too.
Law graduates are still working as a lowly apprentice in law firm.
Most management graduates have just failed on their first business plan.
The arts graduate is still looking for a job.
And the medical school graduate is still living in a hospital.

Advantage 2: Unmatchable industriousness
============================================================
An engineer boyfriend will dedicate an unimaginable amount of his time
and effort to understand you. Engineers strain really really hard to
understand their work. You can believe that they will try really really
hard to understand women too, just like how they understand their work,
once they believe that you are the one. So even if they don't understand
you initially, they will keep on trying. Even if they still do not
understand, they will figure out the correct method to keep you happy
(e.g. buy diamond ring = 1 week's worth of happiness.) And once they
find out the secret formula, they will just keep on repeating it so that
the desired results appear.
Unlike the Lawyer who will argue with you.
The Management graduate who will try to control your spending, The Arts
graduate who will 'change major'.
And the medical school graduate who will operate on you.
And you know what, it's really so easy to make engineer s believe that
You are the 'one'. Say that you like one of their project and they will
be hooked to you forever.

Advantage 3: An engineer boyfriend will never betray your trust.
============================================================
Let me first tell you what is wrong with the rest of the others - The
lawyers will lie about everything.
Management graduates will cheat your money.
The arts graduate will flirt, and you probably just look like another
cadaver to the medical school graduate.
Your engineer boyfriend is either too busy to have an affair, and even
if he does, he is too dumb to lie to you about that. Hence, an engineer
is the most secure boyfriend that you will ever find - rich enough, will
keep on trying to understand and please you, has no time for affairs,
and too dumb to lie to you.

So girls, why procrastinate?
Get an engineer as your boyfriend!


Proud to be an Engineer

Celebration means......

Celebration means......

A winter evening.
Four friends.
One barsaat.
Four glasses of chai.

(OR)

Hundred bucks of gas.
A rusty old bike.
And an open road.

(OR)

Maggi noodles.
A hostel room.
4.25 a.m.

(OR)

3 old friends.
3 separate cities.
3 coffee mugs.
1 internet messenger.

(OR)

Rain on a hot tin roof.
Pakoras deep-frying.
Neighbours dropping in.
A party.

(OR)

You and mom.
A summer night.
A bottle of coconut oil.
A head massage.
Gossiping about absent family members.


You can spend
Hundreds on birthdays,
Thousands on festivals,
Lakhs on weddings,

but to celebrate
all you have to do is spend your Time ..

Keep in touch with your loved ones .........

Cheers !!!

Conversation between GOD and Human being

God : Hello. Did you call me?
Me: Called you? No.. who is this?

God : This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought I will chat.
Me: I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something.

God : What are you busy at? Ants are busy too.
Me: Don't know. But I cant find free time. Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time.

God : Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results. Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.
Me: I understand. But I still can't figure out. By the way, I was not expecting YOU to buzz me on instant messaging chat.

God : Well I wanted to resolve your! fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this net era, I wanted to reach you through the medium you are comfortable with.
Me: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?

God : Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.
Me: why are we then constantly unhappy?

God : Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday.You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.
Me: But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?

God : Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.
Me: But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty..

God : Pain is inevitable able, but suffering is optional.
Me: If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?

God : Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don't suffer. With that experience their life become better not bitter.
Me: You mean to say such experience is useful?

God : Yes. In every terms, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.
Me: But still, why should we go through such tests? Why cant we be free from problems?

God : Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons (to) Enhance Mental Strength. Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance, not when you! are free from problems.
Me: Frankly in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading..

God : If you look outside you will not know where you are heading.Look inside. Looking outside, you dream. Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.
Me: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?

God : Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you. Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead. You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.
Me: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?

God : Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.
Me: What surprises you about people?

God : when they suffer they ask, "why me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why me" Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.
Me: Sometimes I ask, who am I, why am I here. I cant get the answer.

God : Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.
Me: How can I get the best out of life?

God : Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.
Me: One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

God : There are no unanswered prayers. At times the answer is NO.
Me: Thank you for this wonderful chat.

God : Well. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Don't believe your doubts and doubt your beliefs. Life is a mystery to solve not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live. "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that took our breath away!





God : Hello. Did you call me?
Me: Called you? No.. who is this?

God : This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought I will chat.
Me: I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something.

God : What are you busy at? Ants are busy too.
Me: Don't know. But I cant find free time. Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time.

God : Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results. Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.
Me: I understand. But I still can't figure out. By the way, I was not expecting YOU to buzz me on instant messaging chat.

God : Well I wanted to resolve your! fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this net era, I wanted to reach you through the medium you are comfortable with.
Me: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?

God : Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.
Me: why are we then constantly unhappy?

God : Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday.You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.
Me: But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?

God : Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.
Me: But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty..

God : Pain is inevitable able, but suffering is optional.
Me: If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?

God : Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don't suffer. With that experience their life become better not bitter.
Me: You mean to say such experience is useful?

God : Yes. In every terms, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.
Me: But still, why should we go through such tests? Why cant we be free from problems?

God : Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons (to) Enhance Mental Strength. Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance, not when you! are free from problems.
Me: Frankly in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading..

God : If you look outside you will not know where you are heading.Look inside. Looking outside, you dream. Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.
Me: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?

God : Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you. Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead. You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.
Me: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?

God : Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.
Me: What surprises you about people?

God : when they suffer they ask, "why me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why me" Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.
Me: Sometimes I ask, who am I, why am I here. I cant get the answer.

God : Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.
Me: How can I get the best out of life?

God : Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.
Me: One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

God : There are no unanswered prayers. At times the answer is NO.
Me: Thank you for this wonderful chat.

God : Well. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Don't believe your doubts and doubt your beliefs. Life is a mystery to solve not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live. "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that took our breath away!



TEN COMMANNDMENT

Something for Married People and for whom who are planning to move into a relationship.


v The very first commandment is, avoid the next quarrel. If one of you is in a mood to quarrel, the other one should be patient. His or her turn will come at the right time. But both should not lose their temper at the same time.

v The second commandment of marriage is, be a good listener. Listen to what the other person has to say. We like to talk but are not prepared to listen. Let us be good listeners. Of a couple it was said, in the days of courtship, he talked and she listened. On their honeymoon, she talked and he listened. Now that they are settled down in their own home, both talk and the neighbours listen.

v The third commandment of marriage is, appreciate your spouse. Everyone loves to be appreciated. Do not find fault with your spouse when you are in the midst of other people. A Great Philosopher said, "Reprove your friend in secret, praise him before others." When we appreciate others, we help to draw out the best in them.

v The fourth commandment is, keep your love fresh! After marriage, spouses take each other for granted. Women have complaints that, "There was a time when our husbands gave us many promises, made many vows, took great interest in what we did. All this has become a part of history. Now they take us for granted." Therefore, keep your love fresh.

v The fifth commandment is, do not expect perfection from each other. No man or woman is ever perfect. It was Jesus who said, "Call me not perfect. Alone the Father in heaven is perfect!" Marriage involves two imperfect human beings joining together. Accept your spouse for what he or she is, not for what he or she would be, could be or should be.

v The sixth commandment is, be a good forgiver. To make marriage a success, to make it a source of happiness and harmony, you have to forgive much. It is the prerogative of marriage to give and give and give - and forgive - and never be tired of giving and forgiving. "How many times shall I forgive?" asked a husband. "Shall I forgive seven times?" "No", came the answer, "you must forgive seventy times seven." 70 times 7 is 490 times which means you must forgive without counting. And a wife complained "I have been forgiving until I can forgive no longer, forgiven and received nothing in return." And she told, "continue to forgive without expecting anything in return."

v The seventh commandment of marriage is, you must be patient, loving, understanding, kind and true to each other.

v The eighth commandment is, develop a healthy sense of humour. If two people have to live with each other, they must develop a healthy sense of humour. They must learn to laugh and make each other laugh.

v The nineth commandment is, if ever there is a misunderstanding, do not hide your feelings. Do not hesitate in discussing whatever is in your hearts,: without fear.

v The tenth and the most important commandment is everyday, you must find time to sit together and praise the Lord and thank Him for having brought the two of you together.

With Love

Interview with Warren Buffet, the second richest person !!!!!!!!!

READ SPECIALLY the LAST LINE


There was a one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second
richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity. Here are some very
interesting aspects of his life:

1) He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he
started too late!

2) He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering
newspapers.

3) He still lives in the same small 3 bedroom house in mid-town Omaha,
that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has
everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a
fence.

4) He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or
security people around him.

5) He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest
private jet company.

6) His company, BerkshireHathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only
one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals
for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis.

7) He has given his CEO's only two rules. Rule number 1: do not lose
any of your share holder's money. Rule number 2: Do not forget rule
number 1. (This is the BEST one)


8) He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time
after he gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch
television.

9) Bill Gates, the world's richest man met him for the first time only
5 years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with
Warren Buffet. So he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But
when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates
became a devotee of Warren Buffet.

10) Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his
desk.

11) His advice to young people: Stay away from credit cards and invest
in yourself.

Thursday, November 09, 2006

story of a guy in luv !

Hope u wd enjoy the story !~



10th grade

As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She
was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and
wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it.
After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had
missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and
gave me
a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I
don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I
don't know why.

11th grade

The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears,
mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me
to
come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next
to
her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After
2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided
to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on
the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to
be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Senior year

The day before prom she walked to my locker. "My date is sick" she
said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th
grade, we
made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together
just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was
over,
I was standing at her front door step! I stared at her as she smiled at
me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but
she doesn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had
the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell
her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love
her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Graduation Day

A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was
graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up
on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't
notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone
went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged
her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my
best
friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I
want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but
I'm just too shy, and I don't know why
.

A Few Years Later

Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now.
I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to
another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn`t see me like that,
and
I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you
came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell
her, I
want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but
I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Funeral

Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my
"best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in
her high school years. This is what it read:
I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that,
and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want
to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know
why. I wish he would tell me he loved me!
I wish I did too... I thought to my self, and I cried.

When You Thought I Wasn't Looking

A message every adult should read, because children are watching you and doing as you do, not as you say.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator and I immediately wanted to paint another one.

When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you make my favorite cake for me and I learned that the little things can be the special things in life.

When you thought I wasn't looking I heard you say a prayer, and I knew there is a God I could always talk to and I learned to trust in God.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I learned that we all have to help take care of each other.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you give of your time and money to help people who had nothing and I learned that those who have something should give to those who don't.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you take care of our house and everyone in it and I learned we have to take care of what we are given.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn't feel good and I learned that I would have to be responsible when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw tears come from your eyes and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it's alright to cry.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw that you cared and I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I learned most of life's lessons that I need to know to be a good and productive person when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn't looking, I looked at you and wanted to say, 'Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn't looking.'

Each of us (parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, teacher or friend) influences the life of a child. How will you touch the life of someone today?

Written by a former child
Author Unknown

Friday, September 29, 2006

Vanilla Ice Cream that puzzled General motors!!!!

An Interesting Story

Never underestimate your Clients' Complaint, no matter how funny it
might seem!

This is a real story that happened between the customer of General
Motors and its Customer-Care Executive. Pls read on.....

A complaint was received by the Pontiac Division of General Motors:

'This is the second time I have written to you, and I don't blame
you for not answering me, because I sounded crazy, but it is a fact
that we have a tradition in our family of Ice-Cream for dessert
after dinner each night, but the kind of ice cream varies so, every
night, after we've eaten, the whole family votes on which kind of
ice cream we should have and I drive down to the store to get it.
It's also a fact that I recently purchased a new Pontiac and since
then my trips to the store have created a problem.....

You see, every time I buy a vanilla ice-cream, when I start back
from the store my car won't start. If I get any other kind of ice
cream, the car starts just fine. I want you to know I'm serious
about this question, no matter how silly it sounds "What is there
about a Pontiac that makes it not start when I get vanilla ice
cream, and easy to start whenever I get any other kind?" The Pontiac
President was understandably skeptical about the letter, but sent an
Engineer to check it out anyway.

The latter was surprised to be greeted by a successful, obviously
well educated man in a fine neighborhood. He had arranged to meet
the man just after dinner time, so the two hopped into the car and
drove to the ice cream store. It was vanilla ice cream that night
and, sure enough, after they came back to the car, it wouldn't
start.

The Engineer returned for three more nights. The first night, they
got chocolate. The car started. The second night, he got strawberry.
The car started. The third night he ordered vanilla. The car failed
to start.

Now the engineer, being a logical man, refused to believe that this
man's car was allergic to vanilla ice cream. He arranged, therefore,
to continue his visits for as long as it took to solve the problem.
And toward this end he began to take notes: He jotted down all sorts
of data: time of day, type of gas uses, time to drive back and forth
etc.

In a short time, he had a clue: the man took less time to buy
vanilla than any other flavor. Why? The answer was in the layout of
the store. Vanilla, being the most popular flavor, was in a separate
case at the front of the store for quick pickup. All the other
flavors were kept in the back of the store at a different counter
where it took considerably longer to check out the flavor.

Now, the question for the Engineer was why the car wouldn't start
when it took less time. Eureka - Time was now the problem - not the
vanilla ice cream!!!! The engineer quickly came up with the
answer: "vapor lock".

It was happening every night; but the extra time taken to get the
other flavors allowed the engine to cool down sufficiently to start.
When the man got vanilla, the engine was still too hot for the vapor
lock to dissipate.

Even crazy looking problems are sometimes real and all problems seem
to be simple only when we find the solution, with cool thinking.

Don't just say it is " IMPOSSIBLE" without putting a sincere
effort.... Observe the word "IMPOSSIBLE" carefully....

Looking closer you will see, "I'M POSSIBLE"...

What really matters is your attitude and your perception.

Attitude Is A Zing Sing Thing

Father : I want you to marry a girl of my choice
Son : "I will choose my own bride!"
Father: "But the girl is Bill Gates's daughter."
Son : "Well, in that case...ok"

Next Father approaches Bill Gates.

Father: "I have a husband for your daughter."
Bill Gates: "But my daughter is too young to marry!"
Father: "But this young man is a vice-president of the World Bank."
Bill Gates: "Ah, in that case...ok"

Finally Father goes to see the president of the World Bank.

Father: "I have a young man to be recommended as a vice-president."
President: "But I already have more vice- presidents than I need!"
Father: "But this young man is Bill Gates's son-in-law."
President: "Ah, in that case...ok"

This is how business is done!!
Moral: Even If you have nothing, You can get Anything. But your attitude should be positive

Thursday, September 28, 2006

Go kiss the world...........worth read

Below is the transcript of a speech delivered by
Subroto Bagchi, Chief Operating Officer, MindTree
Consulting to the Class of 2006 at the Indian
Institute of Management, Bangalore on "Defining
Success". Hope you enjoy reading this as much as I
did
- truly inspiring.

Defining Success
Subroto Bagchi

"I was the last child of a small-time government
servant, in a family of five brothers. My earliest
memory of my father is as that of a District
Employment Officer in Koraput, Orissa. It was and
remains as back of beyond as you can imagine. There
was no electricity; no primary school nearby and
water did not flow out of a tap. As a result, I did not go
to school until the age of eight; I was
home-schooled.
My father used to get transferred every year. The
family belongings fit into the back of a jeep - so
the family moved from place to place and, without any
trouble, my Mother would set up an establishment and
get us going. Raised by a widow who had come as a
refugee from the then East Bengal, she was a
matriculate when she married my Father. My parents
set the foundation of my life and the value system
which makes me what I am today and largely defines
what success means to me today.

As District Employment Officer, my father was given
a jeep by the government. There was no garage in the
Office, so the jeep was parked in our house. My
father refused to use it to commute to the office. He told
us that the jeep is an expensive resource given by the
government - he reiterated to us that it was not
'his jeep' but the government's jeep. Insisting that he
would use it only to tour the interiors, he would
walk to his office on normal days. He also made sure
that we never sat in the government jeep - we could sit
in it only when it was stationary. That was our early
childhood lesson in governance - a lesson that
corporate managers learn the hard way, some never
do.
The driver of the jeep was treated with respect due
to any other member of my Father's office. As small
children, we were taught not to call him by his
name. We had to use the suffix 'dada' whenever we were to
refer to him in public or private. When I grew up to
own a car and a driver by the name of Raju was
appointed - I repeated the lesson to my two small
daughters. They have, as a result, grown up to call
Raju, 'Raju Uncle'- very different from many of
their friends who refer to their family drivers as 'my
driver'. When I hear that term from a school - or
college-going person, I cringe. To me, the lesson
was significant - you treat small people with more
respect than how you treat big people. It is more important
to respect your subordinates than your superiors.

Our day used to start with the family huddling
around my Mother's chulha - an earthen fire place she would
build at each place of posting where she would cook
for the family. There was no gas, nor electrical
stoves. The morning routine started with tea. As the
brew was served, Father would ask us to read aloud
the editorial page of The Statesman's 'muffosil' edition
-delivered one day late. We did not understand much
of what we were reading. But the ritual was meant for
us to know that the world was larger than Koraput
district and the English I speak today, despite
having studied in an Oriya medium school, has to do with
that routine. After reading the newspaper aloud, we were
told to fold it neatly. Father taught us a simple
lesson. He used to say, "You should leave your
newspaper and your toilet, the way you expect to
find it". That lesson was about showing consideration to
others. Business begins and ends with that simple
precept.

Being small children, we were always enamored with
advertisements in the newspaper for transistor
radios - we did not have one. We saw other people having
radios in their homes and each time there was an
advertisement of Philips, Murphy or Bush radios, we
would ask Father when we could get one. Each time,
my Father would reply that we did not need one because
he already had five radios - alluding to his five sons.
We also did not have a house of our own and would
occasionally ask Father as to when, like others, we
would live in our own house. He would give a similar
reply, "We do not need a house of our own. I already
own five houses". His replies did not gladden our
hearts in that instant. Nonetheless, we learnt that
it is important not to measure personal success and
sense of well being through material possessions.

Government houses seldom came with fences. Mother
and I collected twigs and built a small fence. After
lunch, my Mother would never sleep. She would take
her kitchen utensils and with those she and I would dig
the rocky, white ant infested surrounding. We
planted flowering bushes. The white ants destroyed them. My
mother brought ash from her chulha and mixed it in
the earth and we planted the seedlings all over again.
This time, they bloomed. At that time, my father's
transfer order came. A few neighbors told my mother
why she was taking so much pain to beautify a
government house, why she was planting seeds that
would only benefit the next occupant. My mother
replied that it did not matter to her that she would
not see the flowers in full bloom. She said, "I have
to create a bloom in a desert and whenever I am
given a new place, I must leave it more beautiful than
what I had inherited". That was my first lesson in
success.

It is not about what you create for yourself, it is
what you leave behind that defines success.

My mother began developing a cataract in her eyes
when
I was very small. At that time, the eldest among my
brothers got a teaching job at the University in
Bhubaneswar and had to prepare for the civil
services examination. So, it was decided that my Mother
would move to cook for him and, as her appendage, I had to
move too. For the first time in my life, I saw
electricity in homes and water coming out of a tap.
It was around 1965 and the country was going to war
with Pakistan. My mother was having problems reading and
in any case, being Bengali, she did not know the Oriya
script. So, in addition to my daily chores, my job
was to read her the local newspaper - end to end.
That created in me a sense of connectedness with a
larger world. I began taking interest in many
different things. While reading out news about the
war, I felt that I was fighting the war myself. She
and I discussed the daily news and built a bond with
the larger universe. In it, we became part of a
larger reality. Till date, I measure my success in terms of
that sense of larger connectedness.

Meanwhile, the war raged and India was fighting on
both fronts. Lal Bahadur Shastri, the then Prime
Minster, coined the term "Jai Jawan, Jai Kisan" and
galvanized the nation in to patriotic fervor. Other
than reading out the newspaper to my mother, I had
no clue about how I could be part of the action. So,
after reading her the newspaper, every day I would
land up near the University's water tank, which
served the community. I would spend hours under it,
imagining that there could be spies who would come to poison
the water and I had to watch for them. I would daydream
about catching one and how the next day, I would be
featured in the newspaper. Unfortunately for me, the
spies at war ignored the sleepy town of Bhubaneswar
and I never got a chance to catch one in action.
Yet, that act unlocked my imagination.

Imagination is everything. If we can imagine a future, we can
Create it, if we can create that future, others will live in it.
That is the essence of Success.

Over the next few years, my mother's eyesight dimmed
but in me she created a larger vision, a vision with
which I continue to see the world and, I sense,
through my eyes, she was seeing too. As the next few
years unfolded, her vision deteriorated and she was
operated for cataract. I remember, when she returned
after her operation and she saw my face clearly for
the first time, she was astonished. She said, "Oh my
God, I did not know you were so fair". I remain
mighty pleased with that adulation even till date.
Within weeks of getting her sight back, she
developed a corneal ulcer and, overnight, became blind in both
eyes. That was 1969. She died in 2002. In all those
32 years of living with blindness, she never complained
about her fate even once. Curious to know what she
saw with blind eyes, I asked her once if she sees
Darkness. She replied, "No, I do not see darkness. I
only see light even with my eyes closed". Until she
was eighty years of age, she did her morning yoga
everyday, swept her own room and washed her own
clothes. To me, success is about the sense of
independence; it is about not seeing the world but
seeing the light. Over the many intervening years, I
grew up, studied, joined the industry and began to
carve my life's own journey. I began my life as a
clerk in a government office, went on to become a
Management Trainee with the DCM group and eventually
found my life's calling with the IT industry when
fourth generation computers came to India in 1981.
Life took me places - I worked with outstanding
people, challenging assignments and traveled all
over the world. In 1992, while I was posted in the US, I
learnt that my father, living a retired life with my
eldest brother, had suffered a third degree burn
injury and was admitted in the Safderjung Hospital
in Delhi. I flew back to attend to him - he remained
for a few days in critical stage, bandaged from neck to
toe. The Safderjung Hospital is a cockroach
infested, dirty, in-human place. The overworked,
under-resourced sisters in the burn ward are both victims and
perpetrators of dehumanized life at its worst. One
morning, while attending to my Father, I realized
that the blood bottle was empty and fearing that air
would go into his vein, I asked the attending nurse to
change it. She bluntly told me to do it myself. In
that horrible theater of death, I was in pain and
frustration and anger. Finally when she relented and
came, my Father opened his eyes and murmured to her,
"Why have you not gone home yet?" Here was a man on
his deathbed but more concerned about the overworked
nurse than his own state. I was stunned at his stoic
self. There I learnt that there is no limit to how
concerned you can be for another human being and
what is the limit of inclusion you can create. My father
died the next day.

He was a man whose success was defined by his
Principles, his Frugality, his Universalism and his
Sense of Inclusion. Above all, he taught me that,
"Success is your ability to rise above your
discomfort, whatever may be your current state".
You can, if you want, raise your consciousness above
your immediate surroundings. Success is not about
building material comforts - the transistor that he never
could buy or the house that he never owned. His success
was about the legacy he left, the memetic continuity of
his ideals that grew beyond the smallness of a
ill-paid, unrecognized government servant's world.

My father was a fervent believer in the British Raj.
He sincerely doubted the capability of the
post-independence Indian political parties to govern
the country. To him, the lowering of the Union Jack
was a sad event. My Mother was the exact opposite.
When Subhash Bose quit the Indian National Congress
and came to Dacca, my mother, then a schoolgirl,
garlanded him. She learnt to spin khadi and joined
an underground movement that trained her in using
daggers and swords.
Consequently, our household saw diversity in the
political outlook of the two. On major issues
concerning the world, the Old Man and the Old Lady
had differing opinions. In them, we learnt the power of
disagreements, of dialogue and the essence of living
with diversity in thinking. Success is not about the
ability to create a definitive dogmatic end state;
it is about the unfolding of thought processes, of
dialogue and continuum.

Two years back, at the age of eighty-two, Mother had
a paralytic stroke and was lying in a government
hospital in Bhubaneswar. I flew down from the US
where I was serving my second stint, to see her. I spent
two weeks with her in the hospital as she remained in a
paralytic state. She was neither getting better nor
moving on. Eventually I had to return to work. While
leaving her behind, I kissed her face. In that
paralytic state and a garbled voice, she said, "Why
are you kissing me, go kiss the world." Her river
was nearing its journey, at the confluence of life and
death, this woman who came to India as a refugee,
raised by a widowed Mother, no more educated than
high school, married to an anonymous government servant
whose last salary was Rupees Three Hundred, robbed
of her eyesight by fate and crowned by adversity - was
telling me to go and kiss the world!

Success to me is about Vision. It is the ability to
rise above the immediacy of pain. It is about
Imagination. It is about Sensitivity to small
people.
It is about Building Inclusion. It is about
Connectedness to a larger world existence. It is
about Personal Tenacity. It is about Giving Back More To
Life than you take out of it. It is about creating
Extra-Ordinary Success With Ordinary Lives.

Thank you very much; I wish you good luck and
Godspeed. Go, kiss the world.

Take time to appreciate what you have now

A touching story and A good reminder : " Take time to appreciate what you
Have now."


On the last day before Christmas, I hurried to go to
The supermarket to buy the remaining of the gift I didn't
Manage to buy earlier.
When I saw all the people there, I started to
Complain to myself," It is going to take forever here and I still have so
Many other places to go.
Christmas really is getting more and more annoying
Every year. How I wish I could just lie down, go to sleep and only wake
Up after it..."
Nonetheless, I made my way to the toy section, and
There I started to curse the prices, wondering if after all kids really
Play with such expensive toys.
While looking in the toy section, I noticed a small
Boy of about 5 years old, pressing a doll against his chest.
He kept on touching the hair of the doll and looked
So sad. I wondered who was this doll for.
Then the little boy
Turned to the old woman next to him, " Granny, are you sure I don't have
Enough money?"
The old lady replied, " You know that you don't have
Enough money to buy this doll, my dear."
Then she asked him to stay here for 5 minutes while
She went to look around. She left quickly.
The little boy was still holding the doll in his hand.
Finally, I started to walk toward him and I asked him
Who did he want to give this doll to.
" It is the doll that my sister loved most and wanted
So much for this Christmas. She was so sure that Santa Claus would
Bring it to her."
I replied to him that maybe Santa Claus will bring it
To her, after all, and not to worry.
But he replied to me sadly. " No, Santa Claus can not
Bring it to her where she is now. I have to give the doll to my
Mother so that she can give it to her when she goes there." His eyes
Were so sad while saying this. " My sister has gone to be with God. Daddy says
That Mummy will also go to see God very soon, so I thought that she
Could bring the doll with her to give it to my sister."
My heart nearly stopped. The little boy looked up at
Me and said, " I told daddy to tell mummy not to go yet. I asked him
To wait until I come back from the supermarket."
Then he showed me a very nice photo of him where he
Was laughing. He then told me, " I also want mummy to take this photo
With her so that she will not forget me." I love my mummy and I wish
She doesn't have to leave me but daddy says that she has to go to be
With my little sister."
Then he looked again at the doll with sad eyes, very
Quietly.
I quickly reached for my wallet and took a few notes
And said to the boy, "What if we checked again, just in case if you
Have enough money?"
“ Ok," he said. " I hope that I have enough."
I added some of my money to his without him seeing
And we started to count it. There was enough for the doll, and even
Some spare money.
The little boy said, " Thank you God for giving me
Enough money."
Then he looked at me and added, " I asked yesterday
Before I slept for God to make sure I have enough money to buy this doll
So that mummy can give it to my sister. He heard me." " I also
Wanted to have enough money to buy a white rose for my mummy, but I didn't
Dare to ask God too much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll and
The white rose."
" You know, my mummy loves white rose."
A few minutes later, the old lady came again and I
Left with my trolley. I finished my shopping in a totally
Different state from when I started. I couldn't get the little boy out of my
Mind.
Then I remembered a local newspaper article 2 days
Ago, which mentioned of a drunk man in a truck who hit a car
Where there was one young lady and a little girl.
The little girl died
Right away, and the mother was left in a critical state. The family had
To decide whether to pull the plug on the life-assisting machine,
Because the young lady would not be able to get out of the coma.
Was this the family of the little boy?
Two days after this encounter with the little boy, I
Read in the newspaper that the young lady had passed away.
I couldn't stop myself and went to buy a bunch of
White roses and I went to the mortuary where the body of the young
Woman was exposed for people to see and make last wish before burial.
She was there, in her coffin, holding a beautiful white rose in her
Hand with the photo of the little boy and the doll placed over her
Chest.
I left the place crying, feeling that my life had
Been changed forever. The love that this little boy had for his
Mother and his sister is still , to that day, hard to imagine. And in
A fraction of a second, a drunk man had taken all this away from him

Touching One

It was a sports stadium.

Eight Children were standing on the track to participate in the running event.

* Ready! * Steady! * Bang !!!

With the sound of Toy pistol, all eight girls started running.

Hardly have they covered ten to fifteen steps, one of the smaller girls slipped and fell down,

due to bruises and pain she started crying.

When other seven girls heard this sound, stopped running, stood for a while and

turned back , they all ran back to the place where the girl fell down.

One among them bent, picked and kissed the girl gently and enquired

' Now pain must have reduced' . All seven girls lifted the fallen girl , pacified

her, two of them held the girl firmly and they all seven joined hands

together and walked together and reached the winning post.


Officials were shocked . Clapping of thousands of spectators filled the stadium.

Many eyes were filled with tears and perhaps it had reached the GOD even!

YES. This happened in Hyderabad [INDIA], recently!

The sport was conducted by National Institute of Mental Health ...


All these special girls had come to participate in this event and they are spastic children ...

Yes, they were mentally retarded Challenged.

What did they teach this world?

Teamwork?
Humanity?
Equality among all?????


Successful people help others who are slow in learning so that they are not felt far behind. This is really a great message... spread it!

We can't do this ever because we have brains!!!!!!!!!

Ten Steps to a Blessed Day

1. TODAY I WILL NOT STRIKE BACK.
If someone is rude, If someone is impatient,
If someone is unkind I will not respond in like manner.
"Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."

2. TODAY I WILL ASK GOD TO BLESS MY "ENEMY".
If I come across someone who treats me harshly or unfairly,
I will quietly ask God to bless that individual.
I understand the "enemy" could be a family member, neighbour,
co-worker or stranger.

3. TODAY I WILL BE CAREFUL ABOUT WHAT I SAY.
I will carefully choose and guard my words, being certain that I do
not spread gossip, slander or malign anyone in any way.
"Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."


4. TODAY I WILL GO THE EXTRA MILE.
I will find ways to help share the burden of another person.
I will find ways to make life more pleasant.
"Greater love has no one than this that he lay down his life for his friends."


5. TODAY I WILL FORGIVE.
I will forgive any hurt or injuries that come my way.
(I will also work to forgive injuries that have been inflicted
upon me in the past).
"God is love."

6. TODAY I WILL DO SOMETHING NICE FOR SOMEONE, BUT I WILL DO IT SECRETLY .
I will reach out anonymously and bless the life of another person.
We always thank God for mentioning you in our prayers.


7. TODAY I WILL TREAT OTHERS AS I WISH TO BE TREATED.
I will practice the Golden Rule - "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
- with everyone I encounter.


8. TODAY I WILL RAISE THE SPIRITS OF SOMEONE WHO IS DISCOURAGED.
My smile, my words, my expression or support, can make the difference to
someone who is wrestling with life."If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and
drink."


9. TODAY I WILL NURTURE MY BODY.
I will eat less. I will eat only healthy foods
I will thank God for my body.


10. TODAY I WILL GROW SPIRITUALLY.
I will spend a little more time in prayer today
I will begin reading something spiritual or inspirational today
I will find a quiet place (at some point during this day) and listen to God's voice.

50 Ways to Fail an exam with style

1. Bring a pillow. Fall asleep (or pretend to) until the last 15 minutes. Wake up, say "oh geez, better get cracking" and do some gibberish work. Turn it in a few minutes early.

2. Get a copy of the exam, run out screaming "Andre, Andre, I've got the secret documents!!"

3. If it is a math/science exam, answer in essay form. If it is long answer/essay form, answer with numbers and symbols. Be creative. Use the integral symbol.

4. Make paper airplanes out of the question paper. Aim them at the instructor's left nostril.

5. Talk the entire way through the exam. Read questions aloud, debate your answers with yourself out loud. If asked to stop, yell out, "I'm SOOO sure you can hear me thinking." Then start talking about what a jerk the instructor is.

6. Bring cheerleaders.

7. Walk in, get the question paper, sit down. About five minutes into it, loudly say to the instructor, "I don't understand ANY of this. I've been to every lecture all semester long! What's the deal? And who the hell are you? Where's the regular guy?"

8. Bring a Game Boy (or Game Gear, etc...). Play with the volume at max level.

9. On the answer sheet (book, whatever) find a new, interesting way to refuse to answer every question. For example: I refuse to answer this question on the grounds that it conflicts with my religious beliefs. Be creative.

10. Bring pets.

11. Run into the exam room looking about frantically. Breathe a sigh of relief. Go to the instructor, say "They've found me, I have to leave the country" and run off.

12. Fifteen minutes into the exam, stand up, rip up all the papers into very small pieces, throw them into the air and yell out "Merry Christmas." If you're really daring, ask for another copy of the exam. Say you lost the first one. Repeat this process every fifteen minutes.

13. Do the exam with crayons, paint, or fluorescent markers.

14. Come into the exam wearing slippers, a bathrobe, a towel on your head, and nothing else.

15. Come down with a BAD case of Turet's Syndrome during the exam. Be as vulgar as possible.

16. Do the entire exam in another language. If you don't know one, make one up! For math/science exams, try using Roman numerals.

17. Bring things to throw at the instructor when s/he's not looking. Blame it on the person nearest to you.

18. As soon as the instructor hands you the question paper, eat it.

19. Walk into the exam with an entourage. Claim you are going to be taping your next video during the exam. Try to get the instructor to let them stay, be persuasive. Tell the instructor to expect a percentage of the profits if they are allowed to stay.

20. Every five minutes, stand up, collect all your things, move to another seat, continue with the exam.

21. Turn in the answer sheet approximately 30 minutes into it. As you walk out, start commenting on how easy it was.

22. Do the entire exam as if it was multiple choice and true/false. If it is a multiple choice exam, spell out interesting things (DCCAB. BABE. etc..).

23. Bring a black marker. Return the exam with all questions and answers completely blacked out.

24. Get the exam. Twenty minutes into it, throw your papers down violently, scream out "F*** this!" and walk out triumphantly.

25. Arrange a protest before the exam starts (i.e. Threaten the instructor that whether or not everyone's done, they are all leaving after one hour to go drink)

26. Show up completely drunk. (Completely drunk means at some point during the exam, you should start crying for mommy).

27. Every now and then, clap twice rapidly. If the instructor asks why, tell him/her in a very derogatory tone, "the light bulb that goes on above my head when I get an idea is hooked up to a clapper. DUH!"

28. Comment on how sexy the instructor is looking that day.

29. Come to the exam wearing a black cloak. After about 30 minutes, put on a white mask and start yelling "I'm here, the phantom of the opera" until they drag you away.

30. Go to an exam for a class you have no clue about, where you know the class is very small, and the instructor would recognize you if you belonged. Claim that you have been to every lecture. Fight for your right to take the exam.

31. Upon receiving the exam, look it over, while laughing loudly, say "you don't really expect me to waste my time on this drivel? Days of our Lives is on!!!"

32. Bring a water pistol with you. Nuff said.

33. From the moment the exam begins, hum the theme to Jeopardy. Ignore the instructor's requests for you to stop. When they finally get you to leave one way or another, begin whistling the theme to the Bridge on the River Kwai.

34. Start a brawl in the middle of the exam.

35. If the exam is math/science related, make up the longest proofs you could possibly think of. Get pi and imaginary numbers into most equations. If it is a written exam, relate everything to your own life story.

36. Come in wearing a full knight's outfit, complete with sword and shield.

37. Bring a friend to give you a back massage the entire way through the exam. Insist this person is needed, because you have bad circulation.

38. Bring cheat sheets FOR ANOTHER CLASS (make sure this is obvious... like history notes for a calculus exam... otherwise you're not just failing, you're getting kicked out too) and staple them to the exam, with the comment "Please use the attached notes for references as you see fit."

39. When you walk in, complain about the heat. Strip.

40. After you get the exam, call the instructor over, point to any question, ask for the answer. Try to work it out of him/her.

41. One word: Wrestlemania.

42. Bring balloons, blow them up, start throwing them around like they do before concerts start.

43. Try to get people in the room to do the wave.

44. Play frisbee with a friend at the other side of the room.

45. Bring some large, cumbersome, ugly idol. Put it right next to you. Pray to it often. Consider a small sacrifice.

46. Get deliveries of candy, flowers, balloons, telegrams, etc... sent to you every few minutes throughout the exam.

47. During the exam, take apart everything around you. Desks, chairs, anything you can reach.

48. Complete the exam with everything you write being backwards at a 90 degree angle.

49. Bring a musical instrument with you, play various tunes. If you are asked to stop, say "it helps me think." Bring a copy of the Student Handbook with you, challenging the instructor to find the section on musical instruments during finals. Don't forget to use the phrase "Told you so".

50. Answer the exam with the "Top Ten Reasons Why Professor xxxx Sucks"

THE ROSE- Inspirational

TO MY FRIENDS.....LITTLE LONG BUT WORTH IT..........

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.I turned round to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being.She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?" I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze."Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked.She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich hunk, get married and have a couple of kids...""No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age."I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went.She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up. At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet.I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry, I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing".There are only a few secrets to staying young, * being happy *achieving success * laugh and find humor every day * have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do anything, you will turn twent. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets."She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose." She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be .These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE.REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give. God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it."Good friends are like stars.........You don't always see them, but you know they are always there. I believe you liked this email and would like to share with your near & dear ones.GROW UP

Friday, August 25, 2006

Dont Allow "OTHERS" To Control Your DESTINEY

A man runs into an old friend who had somehow never been able to make it in life. "I should give
him some money," he thinks. But instead he learns that his old friend has grown rich and is
actually seeking him out to repay the debts he had run up over the years.
They go to a bar they used to frequent together, and the friend buys drinks for everyone there.
When they ask him how he became so successful, he answers that until only a jew days ago, he
had been living the role of the "Other."
"What is the Other?" they ask.
"The Other is the one who taught me what I should be like, but not what I am. The Other believes that it is our obligation to spend our entire life thinking about how to get our hands on as muchmoney as possible so that we will not die of hunger when we are old. So we think so much about money and our plans for acquiring it that we discover we are alive only when our days on earth are practically done. And then it's too late."

"And you? Who are you?"

"I am just like everyone else who listens to their heart: a person who is enchanted by the mystery of life. Who is open to miracles, who experiences joy and enthusiasm for what they do. It's just that the Other, afraid of disappointment, kept me from taking action."

"But there is suffering in life," one of the listeners said.
"And there are defeats. No one can avoid them. But it's better to lose some of the battles in the
struggle for your dreams than to be defeated without ever even knowing what you're fighting
for."
"That's it?" another listener asked.
"Yes, that's it. When I learned this, I resolved to become the person I had always wanted to be.
The Other stood there in the corner of my room, watching me, but I will never let the Other into
myself again even though it has already tried to frighten me, warning me that it's risky not to
think about the future.
"From the moment that I ousted the Other from my life, the Divine Energy began to perform its
miracles."

[Taken out from “By The River Piedra I Sat Down And Wept - Paulo Coelho]

Wednesday, August 09, 2006

Men Vs. Women

Relationships
When a relationship ends, a woman will cry and pour her heart out to her girlfriends, and she will write a poem titled "All Men Are Idiots". Then she will get on with her life.
A man has a little more trouble letting go. Six months after the break-up, at 3:00 a.m. on a Saturday night, he will call and say, "I just wanted to let you know you ruined my life, and I'll never forgive you, and I hate you, and you're a total floozy. But I want you to know that there's always a chance for us". This is known as the "I Hate You / I Love You" drunken phone call, that 99% of all men have made at least once. There are community colleges that offer courses to help men get over this need; alas, these classes rarely prove effective.
Maturity
Women mature much faster than men. Most 17-year-old females can function as adults. Most 17-year-old males are still trading baseball cards and giving each other wedgies after gym class. This is why high school romances rarely work out.
Handwriting
To their credit, men do not decorate their penmanship. They just chicken- scratch. Women use scented, colored stationary and they dot their "i's" with circles and hearts. Women use ridiculously large loops in their "p's" and "g's". It is a royal pain to read a note from a woman. Even when she's dumping you, she'll put a smiley face at the end of the note.
Bathrooms
A man has six items in his bathroom - a toothbrush, toothpaste, shaving cream, razor, a bar of Dial soap, and a towel from the Holiday Inn. The average number of items in the typical woman's bathroom is 437. A man would not be able to identify most of these items.
Groceries
A woman makes a list of things she needs and then goes to the store and buys these things. A man waits till the only items left in his fridge are half a lime and a beer. Then he goes grocery shopping. He buys everything that looks good. By the time a man reached the checkout counter, his cart is packed tighter that the Clampett's car on Beverly Hillbillies. Of course, this will not stop him from going to the 10-items-or-less lane.
Shoes
When preparing for work, a woman will put on a Mondi wool suit, and then slip on Reebok sneakers. She will carry her dress shoes in a plastic bag. When a woman gets to work, she will put on her dress shoes. Five minutes later she will kick them off because her feet are under the desk. A man will wear the same pair of shoes all day.
Leg Warmers
A woman, even if she's walking the dog or doing the dishes, is allowed to wear leg warmers. She can wear them any time she wants. A man can only wear leg warmers if he is auditioning for the "Gimme the Ball" number in "A Chorus Line."
Going Out
When a man says he is ready to go out, it means he is ready to go out. When a woman says she is ready to go out, it means she will be ready to go out, as soon as she finds her earring, finishes putting on her makeup...
Cats
Women love cats. Men say they love cats, but when women aren't looking, men kick cats.
Offspring
Ah!, children. A woman knows all about her children. She knows about dentist appointments and soccer games and romances and best friends and favorite foods and secret fears and hopes and dreams. A man is vaguely aware of some short people living in the house.
Dressing Up
A woman will dress up to: go shopping, water the plants, empty the garbage, answer the phone, read a book, get the mail..........etc.
A man will dress up for: weddings, funerals.
Laundry
Women do laundry every couple of days. A man will wear every article of clothing he owns, including his surgical pants that were hip about eight years ago, before he will do his laundry. When he is finally out of clothes, he will wear a dirty sweatshirt inside out and take his mountain of clothes to the laundromat. Men always expect to meet beautiful women at the laundromat. This is a myth perpetuated by re-runs of old episodes of "Love, American Style."
Socks
Men wear sensible socks. They wear standard white sweatsocks. Women wear strange socks. Socks that are cut way below the ankles, that have pictures of clouds on them, that have a big fuzzy ball on the back.
Nicknames
If Gloria, Suzanne, Deborah and Michelle get together for lunch, they will call each other Gloria, Suzanne, Deborah and Michelle. But if Mike, Dave, Rob and Jack go out for a brewsky, they will affectionately refer to each other as Bullet-Head, Godzilla, Peanut-Brain and Useless.
Eating Out
... and when the check comes, Mike, Dave, Rob and Jack will each throw in $20 bills, even though it's only for $22.50. None of them will have anything smaller, and none will actually admit they want change back. When the girls get their check, out come the pocket calculators.
Mirrors
Men are vain; they will always check themselves out in a mirror. Women are ridiculous; they will check out their reflections in any shiny surface: mirrors, spoons, car windows, store windows, toasters, Joe Garagiola's head.
The Telephone
Men see the telephone as a communication tool. They use the telephone to send short messages to other people. A woman can visit her girlfriend for two weeks, and upon returning home, she will call the same friend and they will talk for three hours.
Directions
If a woman is out driving, and she finds herself in unfamiliar surroundings, she will stop at a gas station and ask for directions. Men consider this to be a sign of weakness. Men will never stop and ask for directions. Men will drive in a circle for hours, all the while saying things like, "Looks like I've found a new way to get there." and, "I know I'm in the general neighborhood. I recognize that 7-11 store."
Admitting Mistakes
Women will sometimes admit making a mistake. The last man who admitted he was wrong was General George Custer.
Toys
Little girls love to play with toys. Then when they reach the age of 11 or 12, they lose interest. Men never grow out of their obsession with toys. As they get older, their toys simply become more expensive and silly and impractical. Examples of men's toys: little miniature TV's. Car phones. Complicated juicers and blenders. Graphic equalizers. Small robots that serve cocktails on command. Video games. Anything that blinks, beeps, and requires at least 6 "D" batteries to operate.
Plants
A woman asks a man to water her plants while she is on vacation. The man waters the plants. The woman comes home five or six days later to an apartment full of dead plants. No one knows why this happens.
Cameras
Men take photography very seriously. They'll shell out $4000 for state of the art equipment, and build dark rooms and take photography classes. Women purchase Kodak Instamatics. Of course women always end up taking better pictures.
Jewelry
Women look nice when they wear jewelry. A man can get away with wearing one ring and that's it. Any more than that and he will look like a lounge singer.